Since Harry and Meghan were married, there has been a lot of speculation regarding the relationship between Harry and William. Sometimes it can be tough to know what’s really going on, especially with conflicting reports of feuds and gossip. So, what is true and what is not when it comes to these two Royal brothers?
A new household
Some of the rumors came with the establishment of Harry and Meghan’s new Royal household. This was a controversial move for both Harry and Meghan – though nothing compared to what they did later, in the beginning of 2020, when they announced they were stepping down as “senior” royals, and that they would start dividing their time between Britain and North America.
The household has its very own social media accounts using the handle “@sussexroyal” which means the split is official. But, was this as a result of a break between Harry and William’s relationship? Some sources have suggested that William actually helped Harry get a new home, but is this true?
It turns out there has been some friction between William and Harry, but it’s just not over what everyone thinks. The establishment of Frogmore Cottage, which some Royal fans saw as a sign of trouble, was actually a positive move in William and Harry’s eyes. Plus William helped them, not to get rid of them, but to ensure their own sense of independence from the Royal Family.
After all, when you’re in your mid-thirties, it’s probably hard to imagine still living with your family, particularly if you’re married with a child on the way, as they were back then. It was some time before this particular situation that the problems began, and it had a lot to do with Harry’s new wife, Meghan Markle. Unsurprisingly, this caused the brothers to have a severe divide, according to some inside sources.
Harry and Meghan felt claustrophobic
The couple lived at Kensington Palace within a two-bedroom abode. Of course, we’re sure the place was more than big enough for the couple, but it wouldn’t be big enough for a growing family. Nevertheless, the Palace could probably have found them somewhere big enough within their walls, but this didn’t suit Harry and Meghan.
A family friend spoke to a media outlet voicing their concerns that Harry and Meghan felt claustrophobic under the intent and watchful eye of the Royal Family and their keen advisors. This has been noted to be a ‘healthy’ change for the couple, especially as they now have a little one to add to their growing brood in the form of Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor.
The end of an era
Royalists have noted how this appears to be the end of an era for the two Princes. It seems as though the old days are over, and everything is changing. It’s not every day siblings have to live together after moving out, but after nearly ten years at Eton, the two Princes lived together again. In an interview, the two Princes divulged what it was like living together again.
They gave an insight on just how different it was to move back in together. Like any siblings, William and Harry don’t have a perfect relationship and are susceptible to arguments just like anyone else. It turns out they have had their fair share, but not before William reminded Harry what he’s done for him in the past.
William used to cook for Harry
Believe it or not, these two Princes weren’t always waited on hand and mouth. They had to do some of their own chores, cook for themselves, clothe themselves, and so on. William joked how living with Harry was an ‘emotional’ experience, outlining all the duties he performed to help his brother have an easier life. Homely duties included cooking for Harry practically every night because Harry didn’t do it for himself…
And then having to do the dishes afterward! William suggested that Harry would attempt the dishes, but normally would end up leaving them in the sink for William to wash up afterward. Of course, as any younger sibling would, Harry denies it, passing it off cheerfully as ‘lies.’ No doubt he doesn’t want his slovenly secret getting out.
The unbreakable bond broke
The two brothers have noted over the years the bond they shared since losing their mother, Diana. William was the one to make this point to the media back in 2018 at a charity event. He talked about how it changed them as people and how it brought them closer together.
Understanding what it was like losing the same person. Ken Wharf, Diana’s old bodyguard, apparently reported that the boys grew up with typical sibling rivalries and all the usual bickering. However, they still had that bond.
Harry was jealous of William
There was a point in Harry’s life where it was believed he had gone off the rails, in both the Royal sense and the usual sense of the term. Harry had had enough of the negative press attention, particularly when it came to the coverage of his mother’s passing.
As well as all of the hurtful allegations against other members of his family. An insider let on that Harry felt jealous that William wasn’t getting more media attention, saying that he wasn’t ‘perfect’ either. Apparently, Harry even felt that because William was heir to the throne, he got away with much more.
The silent treatment
Apparently, as a result of this brotherly jealousy, it caused Harry to give William the silent treatment so bad that someone had to step in. It didn’t help that the press went to town whenever Harry was caught doing something deemed improper.
He was getting a lot of negative attention and criticisms, with the whole nation practically psychoanalyzing him. It apparently took one of the royal aides to get the two boys speaking to each other again. Hopefully, that isn’t the case now.
Then Kate came along
Kate had already been on the scene for a very long time as she and William started dating all the way back in 2003. Back then, William was only 20 years old and Harry would have been 18. So, by the time Harry had met Meghan, Kate had more than established her position and relationship within the Royal household.
Kensington viewed them as the ‘Royal trio’ rather than anyone third-wheeling or getting in the way. Kate was seemingly considered as an addition rather than someone who was going to take William away from Harry. This then led to the expectation that Harry would find himself a girlfriend or wife who would fit perfectly with their little group.
It didn’t work out that way
Sources have suggested that this is not how it all worked out, which is what started to cause problems. Harry had a colorful past when it came to women, especially after it didn’t work out with Chelsy Davy, a woman whom he was with on and off for seven years.
Instead, Harry brought home a girl who he was absolutely taken aback by. This changed everything for the trio, turning them into two separate couples instead of the aspired foursome they had imagined.
Harry wanted William’s approval
No one denies that Harry and Meghan’s relationship has moved quite quickly, but it didn’t make a difference to Harry. After all, he was in love. He was so in love, in fact, that he very impulsively took Meghan to Botswana as early as their third date together.
This started to ring alarm bells for the royal advisories as well as William himself. This allegedly prompted William to give his brother a wake-up call, and it is believed to have not gone down too well.
Some brotherly advice
It seems some brotherly advice went very badly. According to insiders, Harry desperately sought approval from his brother for the woman he was going to ask to marry him. They hadn’t been together long, but for Harry, the decision was clear.
Plus, he didn’t have time to spend nine years courting a woman as William did with Kate. Harry was possibly more worried about having to fight for Kate’s approval, as it was important for both the women to get on well together; at least in his mind.
Reality hit Harry hard
It wasn’t long before reality hit that their idea of the perfect addition to their trio wasn’t going to become a reality, especially not after what William apparently said. William allegedly warned his brother about what he was getting himself into.
Even relaying his earnest concerns that Harry and Meghan’s relationship was moving too quickly. This came as a shock to Harry, and he reportedly did not take it well. Royal insiders said that part of Harry’s reaction was because William is the one person he thought he would have unconditional support from.
A royal falling out
A family friend explained that this caused a rift between the brothers, and it was getting so bad, someone had to step in soon. It turns out that their father, Prince Charles, was the one who decided to step in and mediate between Harry and William.
However, he had a surprising reaction. It turned out that Charles wanted William to support the relationship more than he was, and to expect more from this one. Harry was in his thirties now, after all, so he had to get serious about someone at some point.
Christmas with the Cambridges
This seemed to spur the older brother into making more of an effort with the soon to be engaged couple. So they invited Harry and Meghan over to spend Christmas with them. Things seemed to be going well for a while.
Then the couple got married. Since then, there has been a lot of talk about the couples feuding with each other – whether it’s Meghan with Kate or Harry with William. This time, the media was focusing on the two women as the brunt of the problem, but was this really the case?
Meghan made Kate cry
Before the wedding, there were rumors that maybe Meghan was getting a bit too big for her boots. Even going as far as saying she would put her foot down and wouldn’t accept no for an answer. One insider said that Kate was struggling with Meghan’s demands.
Less than three weeks after giving birth to Prince Louis, and during a bridesmaid dress fitting for her daughter Charlotte, she was found running out of the room crying. This was apparently because she was unable to live up to Meghan’s standards.
A new royal household makes sense
People said that Harry and Meghan moving out would actually be a natural and positive step in their lives, and a healthier one for everyone around them. Insiders noted that so much had changed between the brothers and within the household.
It made sense that they would enter the next stage of their lives; especially as Harry was about to become a father for the first time. While the royal budget probably didn’t like it, it’s actually more normal than they would have you think.
Prince Charles doesn’t live with his siblings
One example of this is that Prince Charles doesn’t live with his siblings. In fact, they all got to make their own households. This means that Harry should be allowed to do the same and especially at his age.
The idea was for the two households to live separately, while also not being too far apart. Frogmore Cottage and Kensington Palace are only around 25 miles away from each other, meaning they would never be too far to pop in for a cup of tea should they want to.
Harry and William’s work is different
As William is heir to the throne, after his father Prince Charles, he has a whole line of duties that he will not share with his brother. The same goes for Harry, although his do not directly relate to the succession of the throne and are all far more international.
The fact that their work separates them a lot means they live different lives to each other. This makes it more than natural for them to go their separate ways; especially if Harry isn’t keen on cleaning the dishes!
William’s position gets closer
As William gets older, he gets closer to succeeding the throne. With this in mind, he needs to focus on his duties instead of what his little brother is doing. Also, as much as they both have separate responsibilities, they also have different interests.
This naturally takes them down different roads. It doesn’t mean that they aren’t speaking to each other, or are never going to see each other again, it just means they’re adult men with adult responsibilities.
This isn’t the end though. People will still see the Royal brothers side by side, it just may not be as frequently as they did before. There are plenty of events they are both obliged to attend which will give keen royalists something to be positive about.
Activities will include Commonwealth Events, Trooping The Color and so on. People have said that it’s also a way to stop living in William’s shadow and gives him his own separate identity and reputation.
More to come
There is still so much more to come in their lives, especially now. Meghan and Harry have finally welcomed their new addition to the world, who was born on May 6, 2019. Little Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor is bound to change the dynamics of the siblings once again.
After all, William is now an uncle! Of course, families have issues, as everyone does, and all it means is that the Royals are just the same as everyone else. They just have cool palaces and titles, too.
Reasons for optimism
Now that little Archie is born, we may find ourselves ushering in a new period of William and Harry’s relationship. Here’s what we mean by that: It’s one thing for people to argue when it’s just them.
It’s another thing when there’s a child involved. Now that William and Harry are both parents, they’ll be able to see eye to eye on so many things. It’s possible that they’ll even have a greater respect for each other, and make amends.
A possible stumbling block
Then again… it’s also possible that the fact that they’re both parents could serve the opposite effect. While they may gain a certain level of new respect for each other, they may also find themselves not seeing eye to eye on certain parenting techniques.
Many parents have their own theories in regards to good parenting, and this is the Royal family we’re talking about. So we hope kids entering the equation doesn’t have a negative effect on their relationship.
Bending Royal tradition
After all, it’s not like we have reason to believe that William and Harry are going down super similar paths as parents. With Meghan Markle in Harry’s life, he’s been a completely different person.
She hasn’t been afraid to make controversial statements, and he’s stood by her side all the way. For instance, as far as raising their baby Archie, Meghan and Harry are saying that they may not want to give him a Royal title.
Wives calling the shots
William and Kate on the other hand have never made such a far fetched statement like that. Kate Middleton is the perfect embodiment of Royal tradition, and her husband stands by her side as well.
As far as Kate and Meghan go, clearly they’re very different people. And since both of their husbands support them dearly, this could be one of the reasons they’ve had trouble seeing eye to eye with one another lately. But there is still hope.
Finding common ground
At the end of the day, it’s all about finding common ground. It’s normal in life for people, even siblings, to have different opinions about things. It’s only natural for us to go in different directions.
The key is how we find our common paths, and use them to help embolden each other even amongst our differences. Our hope is that William and Harry will rediscover that commonality, and use that positive energy while raising their children.
The Royal Foundation split
In 2009, Harry and William founded the Royal Foundation, an umbrella charity group that banded together all of the brothers’ charitable pursuits. Then, when Kate joined the family in 2011 she jumped onboard, as did Meghan when she married Harry in 2018.
However, in June 2019 the palace officially announced that Meghan and Harry will be breaking away from the Foundation to start their own charity. This again was perceived as another symptom of the bitter split between the two couples, as they allegedly couldn’t even bear to do things for charity together.
The hidden costs of the feud
While it sometimes feels like the exploits and adventures of William, Kate, Harry, Meghan, and the rest of the royal bunch take place in some fairytale world, it doesn’t – and their actions have some serious real-world ramifications.
Take, for example, Harry and Meghan’s move to Frogmore Cottage. Was it the best thing for them to do? Maybe so. But it cost British taxpayers $3 million for the massive renovation work, all because they couldn’t get along with the in-laws. Makes you look at things in a different light, doesn’t it?
Repeating the mistakes of the past
Another reason for the dark cloud seemingly hanging over William and Harry’s relationship has something to do with William’s past indiscretions. Earlier in 2019, rumors began spreading that the Duke of Cambridge might not have been faithful to Kate.
Adding insult to injury, the alleged “other woman” was Rose Hanbury, a longtime family friend of Kate’s! After the rumors surfaced, it’s been said Harry was incensed with his older brother, for repeating the mistakes their father made, which broke their family apart, culminating in their mother’s premature – and tragic – demise.
The ‘heir and a spare’ mentality
Of course, regardless of any personal bad blood that may or may not exist between the two royal siblings, the alleged feud might be chalked up to the “heir and a spare” mentality. Have you ever wondered why the royals have so many kids?
According to their worldview, you have to have at least two – one heir and one spare. Harry is clearly the spare in his family, and as such he will forever be overshadowed by his brother – and the future king – regardless of how objectively successful he is.
An inevitable conclusion?
The “heir and a spare” mentality, coupled with the vast difference in personalities between the two brothers, may have meant that a split between them was more or less inevitable. While Harry was single, or getting in and out of non-serious relationships, everyone more or less got along.
Once Meghan came into the picture, however, Harry might have suddenly began feeling just how much he isn’t his own man. Whether Meghan did anything to make that notion worse or not, they all started on a collision course, hurtling towards a final blowout that couldn’t help but happen.